04.25.17 by Amy Jones
I am incredibly pleased to introduce to you our 6 self-defense teacher trainees. These individuals – all training members here at Thousand Waves — have all committed to an intensive 10-session, 20-hour classroom series. Once they finish their classroom sessions, they will begin assisting and teaching sections in our onsite and outreach workshops and 12-hour courses. Once they’ve taught the full 12-hour course, they will be considered full instructors.
Speaking personally, I am humbled by this trainee group’s commitment to the teacher training, and to supporting Thousand Waves. They are a great bunch of people, and we’re extremely lucky to be adding them to our teaching ranks.
Without further ado, I give you the trainees, with some of their own words regarding why they’ve embarked upon this path:
Cyrus Sethna: “During my time in the Peace Corps, I used my prior training of ten years in Chinese martial arts to integrate self-defense classes into my project. The impact that these classes had on confidence, self-esteem, and general fitness in my target population was astounding.
Since becoming a part of the TW family, I have fallen in love with the community. Our open, warm, and nurturing culture at the dojo has afforded me incalculable opportunities for personal growth. I look forward to sharing these empowering lessons, furthering the TW mission, and contributing to a more peaceful, harmonious, and loving world through my contributions as a self-defense instructor.”
David Thill: “Simply put, I believe this is a useful and important set of skills for people to have, not only to defend themselves but to gain confidence. I see it as an opportunity to provide a service, expand my community outreach skills, and learn from the individuals with whom we work. Plus, I am passionate about teaching and working with underrepresented groups.”
Jackie Seijo: “Everyone wishes that self-defense wasn’t necessary but right now, unfortunately, it is. I’ve always wanted to feel like I would know what to do in a situation like that and I’ve always loved teaching – so why not combine them! I want to teach something that can truly make a difference.”
Mario Cruz: “As a victim of previous attacks (mostly borne of homophobia), I am particularly interested in self-defense courses, and overall capacity-building initiatives.”
Reese Minshew: “First, I am deeply concerned by the recent spike in hate crimes in the U.S., and am committed to working toward providing people from at-risk communities with tools to protect themselves and each other from violence. Second, I’m a mental health clinician who focuses on treating trauma-related symptoms, and have observed the profoundly empowering effect of self-defense training on people who have experienced violence. And, third, I was first introduced to martial arts through a course in self-defense, and studying martial arts has had a strong positive impact on my life. I am excited about the prospect of sharing this discipline with others, and grateful for the fantastic opportunity to be so comprehensively trained in these teaching skills.”
Robin Billadeau: “The world is really terrifying these days, and I’m looking for a way that I can help my community. It’s really easy to feel totally helpless, and it’s really easy to feel like I have nothing much to contribute. However, I saw a lot of people (mostly women and queer people) curious about self-defense in the aftermath of the election and I just thought ‘Well, heck, that’s something I CAN do to help people deal with what’s coming.’”
04.25.17 by Ryan Libel
The end of 2016 marked the end of the period covered by Thousand Waves’ last strategic plan – we are proud of our many accomplishments! During the last half of last year, we assembled a strategic planning team and turned our attention toward creating a new plan for 2017-2019. As we worked, it became clear that one of the key areas in which Thousand Waves is positioned to grow is in the realm of Self-Defense/Violence Prevention work.
But how to grow? Two main factors influenced our thinking – one is the phenomenal work of program head Amy Jones and the team in delivering a grant-funded series of programs to LGBTQ youth experiencing homelessness in 2015 and 2016. That program allowed us to partner with key organizations already serving a constituency we knew to be at heightened risk of experiencing violence. The other factor is our own experience and the growing body of social science research that demonstrates the best outcomes for Empowerment Self-Defense programs when they can be delivered in multiple sessions over time. While it takes considerable resources to deliver multi-session programs, we’re sure it’s the most effective.
So our plan is to design a multi-year outreach project involving strategic partnerships with organizations that can help us deliver our life-changing programs to the people who can best benefit from them. We will establish goals for this pro-bono service delivery that will allow us to impact as many people as possible as deeply as possible, funding the work with the generosity of supporters like you and through initiatives like our annual Spirit Challenge fundraiser.
Ramping up our service delivery will require more trained instructors than we currently have available to teach. Training professional instructors to deliver our Empowerment Model of Self-Defense is not an overnight task, so the Self-Defense teacher training itself is a big part of our Strategic Plan. We’re currently training six new instructors, all of whom are on track to be class-room ready by the end of the year. I hope you’ll take a moment to read more about them!
Thank you for your interest in and ongoing support of our work, and I look forward to sharing more about our strategic initiatives and successes in the months and years to come.
04.25.17 by Erin Epperson
Once a year, the Thousand Waves community comes together for our Spirit Challenge Fundraiser. Adults, teens, parents and child members, alums, self-defense graduates, and friends of our organization raise funds so we can continue to deliver our violence prevention programs all over the city, provide scholarships for all of our programs, and run our Adapted Seido Karate program for children with disabilities, and. This year, our Spirit Challenge fundraising goal is $125,000, and a huge portion of that goes to our self-defense program – can you donate $25 to support our work?
If you’re reading this, you’ve likely benefited from one of our self-defense trainings. A $25 donation is enough to support a community member who wants to attend one of our onsite single-session workshops. Did you know that we waive that fee upon request? Of course, our 12-hour trainings cost more. If it’s within your budget, a $200 donation will support a participant in one of our 12-hour trainings. Can you help someone else learn self-defense?
If you’ve been in one of our workshops or courses, you know that we teach the skills of conflict resolution and verbal peace-making from the get-go. We teach that in a troubled world it is imperative to examine the origins of violence, both in others and ourselves, and work, in whatever ways we can, small and large, to mitigate it. We also teach people to protect themselves in emergency situations. When you’re working towards peacemaking, you know that you can’t do it by yourself. We want people to feel safe, strong, and respected so that they can in turn be peacemakers in their own communities. Can you help us?
We work with teens to give them strategies against bullying. We partner with organizations all over the city of Chicago serving victims of domestic violence, homeless and insecurely housed youth, LGBTQ organizations, immigrants and refugees, college-aged women, and others across the spectrum of gender, age, race, ethnicity, religion, and sexual orientation. The full fee for a 3-hour program in the community is $600. When organizations can’t afford our full fees, we offer them a scholarship. A $300 donation will enable us to give a 50% scholarship to a cash-strapped organization that is doing good work. Can you be a part of that?
So far this year, we’ve already served over 600 people in 22 different programs. We’ve been especially happy to provide free bystander intervention trainings in response to heightened community demand. We’ve offered 3 of these programs to date, with 2 more on the calendar for the rest of 2017. Even when we do charge for our self-defense programs, we don’t begin to recover our costs. We’re on track to have a record-breaking year, and we can only continue to support this level of service delivery with your help. Fully half of this year’s Spirit Challenge Fundraiser will support the Violence Prevention and Self-Defense program. Show your support now!
Thank you for your support of Thousand Waves!
11.23.16 by Amy Jones
The results of the recent presidential election have elicited strong emotions from many of us. The Southern Poverty Law Center has been tracking reports of hate-based intimidation and harassment and as of this writing has counted 701 since the election. The good news is that the incidents do seem to be decreasing.
While there are a few incidents directed at Trump supporters (SPLC counts 27), the vast majority are targeting members of the immigrant and minority communities. I should note that the “Trump supporters” count from the SPLC is likely an under-representation given that many of the reports are self-reports, and Trump supporters are less likely to report incidents to the Southern Poverty Law Center. As a non-profit dedicated to violence prevention, Thousand Waves stands strongly alongside those who are targeted for violence for any reason.
Responding If You’re Targeted
Every situation is different, but it’s telling to me that most of the incidents reported to the SPLC occurred at a K-12 school. The report only lists locations, but presumably schoolchildren are both targets and assailants for many of these incidents. Some of the anecdotal incidents in the report are that of graffiti, which could come from adults or children, of course. Graffiti is an especially maddening form of low-level violence, because of its anonymity. There’s not much you can do except clean it up.
For those incidents that do happen in person, one of the truisms of self-defense is, “if you’re being targeted because you’re seen as weak, get bigger; if you’re being targeted because you’re seen as strong, get smaller.” In the verbal sections of our self-defense trainings, we talk about boundary-setting and de-escalation as basic self-defense skills that exist on a spectrum. Boundary-setting is on one side (“getting bigger,”) and de-escalation on the other (“getting smaller”). If children are being targeted, it’s a pretty sure bet that assailants are targeting those they identify as weak, which means that setting strong boundaries is called for.
On the other hand, if the person who is targeting you seems highly escalated to the point that they are no longer rational, de-escalation may be a more useful skill – though usually you’ll need to use some boundary setting as well, once they’re calm enough to hear you.
If you’re interested in resources for kids and how you can help kids, KidPower is a great resource. In addition to plenty of great advice on helping kids feel safe, they recently published a blog post on affirming respect, safety, and confidence for all that I heartily recommend.
Being an Ally
Many of the requests that are coming into Thousand Waves in the days since the election are coming from people who are concerned for their friends and loved ones who may be targeted. They want to know what they can do to help others. The safety pin has emerged as a symbol of unity; the idea (it began in the UK after the Brexit vote) being that wearing a safety pin is way of designating oneself as “safe.” I see this as a nice gesture for an ally to take, and one that implies a willingness to intervene. Intervention (using one’s self-defense skills on behalf of others) is one of the skills we teach in our self-defense trainings. It isn’t truly different from the boundary-setting or de-escalation skills we teach, it’s merely applying those skills on behalf of others, including those who aren’t present (as in when someone makes a racist statement, believing that it’s ok because nobody of color is around).
It takes courage to speak up against hateful speech, or speech that robs individuals of dignity, but it’s important work. When intervening, we always stress that one should think of their own safety first – you don’t help others by getting hurt yourself, no matter how good your intentions. But if it does feel safe, we strongly encourage people to say something when they witness racism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, or statements that attack someone’s identity.
What can you say? Here are some examples of lines we practice with students:
- “Is there anything I can do to help?”
- “I don’t see why that’s supposed to be funny. Can you explain it?”
Obviously these lines apply to different situations. The first (“Is there anything I can do to help?”) is a great way of addressing a situation where you’re not sure what’s going on, and it also puts the control in the hands of the person who is being targeted, letting them decide if they want assistance. The second (“I don’t see why that’s supposed to be funny”) is a fairly gentle way of calling out a racist (or homophobic, etc) joke and letting people discover on their own why it’s offensive.
Allies and Building Bridges
The final point I want to make is about building bridges. The one thing that the election showed us is that we are a nation deeply divided. Finding common ground, and moving from a place that assumes positive intent even when the impact is incredibly hurtful, has got to be our first step.
Coming together is not a step that everyone is ready to take. Some of us are still too hurt to be able to think about reaching out. If that describes you, it isn’t your job to find common cause with someone who is hurting you. I hope you’ll channel your energy into protecting yourself and your loved ones.
If you are privileged enough to have the emotional energy to reach out, I hope you will – that you’ll work both to find common cause with those who disagree and also to fight for justice and dignity for those who are threatened. Both are the acts of allies.
At Thousand Waves, we do what we can to foster peacemaking through empowerment. In the immortal words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”
11.08.16 by Amy Jones
The Washingtonian, a magazine for residents of the Washington, DC area, has an excellent article about Empowerment Self-Defense. Go read it!
10.05.16 by Erin Epperson
Erin Epperson has been part of the Violence Prevention/Self-Defense program either as a teacher or as an assistant since 2011. Earlier this year, she attained her national certification as a self-defense instructor. Erin is pictured above teaching at Mother McAuley Liberal Arts High School.
I find myself nowadays to be a wearer of many hats at Thousand Waves. Last fall, I came on staff as a karate teacher in the kids’ program. As of this past summer I came on as a part-time grants writer. It’s been an exciting challenge putting my Ph.D. writing talents to use for a new purpose, to reach out to potential funders to forge these new relationships and share with others the successes of our programming. I also find myself contributing in other areas of the organization I hadn’t expected—front desk and other administrative duties, events planning and management. And most importantly, there is the self-defense teaching—the reason I do what I do! This year we have more programs than we’ve had in years, including the grant-funded self-defense series for LGBTQ homeless and insecurely-housed youth. There’s never a dull day!
I was first drawn to Empowerment-Self Defense through my experiences as a female grad student traveling in India for study and research. I realized only after returning from my first trip how unsafe experiences of harassment had made me feel. I enrolled in Thousand Waves’ 12-hr Self-Defense Intensive Spring 2010 in preparation for a return study abroad trip.
10.05.16 by Margarita Saona
Something incredible happened in my country [Margarita’s home country is Peru — ed] that presents evidence of the power of telling (the fifth finger of self-defense) and the idea that one wave sets thousands in motion. A small group of women started organizing a protest because of a couple of cases where the judicial system had not prosecuted men who had blatantly abused women. They created a closed Facebook group. The members quickly rose from a couple hundred to, now, over 60,000. In this group, meant to coordinate the protest about these cases, one woman started telling her own story as a survivor of abuse. And another one followed. Soon there were thousands of women telling their stories, and every minute the members of the site witnessed the shocking reality: the stories of women’s verbal, emotional, and physical abuse at the hands of men could not be contained neither in their numbers nor in the horror they related. Even though the group is still closed, many of these women, along with their allies with ties to the media, started to reveal what was happening on this Facebook site to the general public through opinion columns and newspaper articles: one after the other they denounced the pervasiveness of the terrible secret all these women had kept. A public Facebook site coordinated the details of the event and on August 13th the march #NiUnaMenos took tens of thousands of Peruvians to the streets in several cities to manifest their repudiation of the violence against women, the awful truth that had remained hidden for so long. I believe that the brave women who started sharing their stories have opened the eyes of even those used to minimizing these abuses. It is, of course, everybody’s prerogative to share a traumatic story or not. But this phenomenon has confirmed my belief in the importance of telling, both as a way to heal for the victims and as a way to create a stronger community capable to standing up to violence.
And I wrote this:
A summary of the evidence supporting Empowerment Self-Defense as violence prevention on college campuses (and one study about bystander intervention)
10.05.16 by Amy Jones
Empowerment self-defense is the umbrella term for the approach to self-defense that we teach at Thousand Waves. Other “empowerment self-defense” (or ESD) programs include IMPACT Chicago (and other IMPACT chapters), the programs that the Center for Anti-Violence Education runs in Brooklyn, the programs run by sister school Sun Dragon Martial Arts & Self-Defense in Austin, Texas, Hand to Hand Kajukenbo Self-Defense in Oakland, and many others across the country. Basically, it’s the idea that self-defense should help participants live with more confidence and less fear by helping them identify and strengthen their self-defense skills, giving them accurate information about violence, and supporting them in making choices that make sense for their life.
We teachers of ESD have felt strongly for years that it’s a great way to empower our participants to reduce violence in their own lives and communities. While there have been articles on the efficacy of self-defense generally in the academic literature for quite a while, it has only been in the past few years that we’ve started to see academic studies that look carefully at empowerment self-defense courses specifically.
10.05.16 by Amy Jones
Recently, I had a conversation with Andrea Stein, Violence Recovery Project Coordinator at Howard Brown Health Center. Andrea works with LGBT folks who are affected by intimate partner violence, and she was concerned that our self-defense programming would be inappropriate for someone in an physically abusive relationship. Since October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, I thought I’d take the opportunity to share what I told her – which are the ways self-defense training can help people in abusive relationships.
09.07.16 by Amy Jones
As a teen and even young adult, The Princess Bride was one of my favorite movies, so much so that even today I know most of the lines. It’s a classic fairy tale — nothing resembling feminism in it, but if you’re willing to overlook the more or less complete lack of women’s empowerment (and 20-year-old me barely even noticed, which probably deserves its own post), it’s a lot of fun.
I haven’t seen it in years, but for some reason was thinking about it the other day as I rode into work.
Specifically, it occurred to me that the 45 seconds linked here constitute a lovely example of verbal self-defense. Our hero (Wesley) is the next thing to bed-ridden. He’s been mostly dead all day. He is definitely not capable of defending himself physically, and the villain (Prince Humperdink) knows it. All seems lost. Then, using the Yell finger of safety, Wesley makes Prince Humperdink question what he thinks he knows, and convinces him to surrender. Our hero doesn’t even lie, even though –as we tell our students — it’s totally fair game to do so in the name of safety. He just tells a truth, and using his tone and choice of words, manages to imply a different truth.
The music swells as our Wesley laboriously/dramatically stands. The command is given, the sword is dropped, and the villain is vanquished.
Check it out: